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There are many ways to insult some one with depression, without even trying very hard. The best way is to give them some unsolicited advice. And so… Something that you think is simple, yet profound, & potentially life changing. But said in ignorance. Nothing cuts deeper to some one with depression, than when their illness, which is serious, is trivialized by another who does not understand it.

Here are the some of the terrible things that people say:

“This is what life is like. Get used to it.” “Life is not meant to be easy.” “Just snap out of it!” “Pull yourself together.” “Who said that life is fair?” “You just have to get on with things.”

“At least it is not that bad.”

“Stop feeling sorry for yourself.”

“You have so many things. Right. What do you have to feel down about?”

“You just need to cheer up.”

“Quit trying to be a martyr.” “Stop taking all those medicines.”

“I know how you feel. I have been depressed for whole days at a time.”

“You do not like feeling that way? So change it!”

These are my favorites:

“What you need is a good kick up the backside.” “Go out & buy yourself some clothes. There is more. That will pick you up.”

“Are you sure you do not have a mental problem?”

“How about I cook you a good meal. That will make things better.” “Have you tried acupuncture?”

“Get a job!”

And the all time best: “Why do not you attempt not being depressed.”

Here is my list of positive things to say!

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